… Autoimmune disease means that the body is attacking itself – it doesn’t mean that the body hates itself.
In my case my body was just mistreated and reacted accordingly. Over 19 years ago when I healed my RA, I understood: it wasn’t my body that attacked me – I attacked my body by overloading it and my immune system responded with inflammation in the affected regions. So it was not about any kind of guilt for my illness, but about how I deal with my body. And I was able to change how I deal with myself.
From the affected people, I often hear: “Rheumatoid arthritis isn’t healable!”
“If not even physicians (as the gods in white) can provide a solution then, how should I (a simple mortal) know what to do?”
The underlying reasoning behind this is the rather-the-better-than-the-latter-principle: “If something is more likely to come to the one who is more likely to have it, then it is obvious that it can’t rather come to the one who is less likely to have it.”
Those who are more likely to achieve this something – in this case the effective strategy to help the patient affected by rheumatoid arthritis – are, due to their extensive knowledge, usually considered to be the physicians: “The doctor, of course!”
But this conviction is a heavy burden.
Many sufferers no longer trust their bodies, lose the confidence to resign themselves to their self-efficacy and start to look for solutions in others.
Self-related beliefs play an essential role in how the affected person will deal with “his/her” rheumatoid arthritis.
A negative belief-system could then look like this: “My body is beyond my control. I don’t want to be ill, and yet it attacks itself. I am help- and powerless in terms of biochemical processes and genetics. That’s why I can’t help myself causally. So working on my good health myself isn’t possible.”
Such propositions most likely act as self-fulfilling prophecies: the result will correspond and confirm the inner conviction. And with an autoimmune disease the implicit implication is clear: “I am continuously hurting myself! “and for it works both ways: “These patients are attacking themselves! “, and transports the conviction of guilt. The confidence in one’s own body and self-efficacy is shaken. And of course, that doesn’t help with raising the motivation to search for the actual causes and solutions.
Thus the affected person becomes emotionally addicted to conventional medicine. As such, he is willing to let drugs suppress symptoms and, as a result of this suppression of symptoms, get even more damaged by the side effects of aggressive chemistry, that can‘t bring about even a chance of healing.
How can one heal anyway if RA is an „autoimmune disease” or „genetically conditioned” or „biochemical processes” which „can’t be ended” are “destroying one’s joints”?
This way, medical terms become meaningless phrases. They sound like empty formulas or come as incomplete knowledge and are regarded by the patient as an endpoint of their influence and insight. This hinders understanding, motivation, actions and makes it difficult to really work on self-healing efforts.
Petermann et al.* describe this obstructive use of phrases. “The use […] can also be assumed in explanations such as “that’s genetic,” “that’s psychosomatic “or” it works electrically.” A proven antidote is the question “Yes fine, but how exactly?”
From the diagnosis, I got no help against my pain and movement restrictions. The tone of impossibility hindered my search, limited my possibilities exactly to the much-desired recovery. Neither my doctor nor the people in my environment thought of healing as possible. But I didn‘t want to resign myself to the disease; I refused to just get on with it, I didn‘t want to learn to accept it as part of me for it wasn‘t, I didn‘t want to stay a client.
My approach was first formed in my reflections: “The student is closest to the pure theory,” I read. It immediately dawned on me, because the student, growing, is directly in the process of being and becoming. In this sense, so I took rheumatoid arthritis as a challenge to master on my way.
The person concerned with RA is the one, who has to suffer the most, who is most associated with it. To me, there is no bigger physical and mental closeness than that of being directly affected.
Therefore, to me, the one affected is always the one who can develop the highest motivation to be more enduring and relentless than anyone else in fighting for his or her health. It is an – or at least should be – innermost interest.
So that meant the first one up to do something was me! Healing is my very own interest! And over time, I became my coach!**
So I formulated my rather-the-better-than-the-latter-sentence: “If it doesn’t cause the one whom it concerns immediately and existentially to mobilize all possible powers (including the further development and further learning), then how should it cause the one less concerned (indirectly due to professional or/and other interests) to take any action at all?” From then on, I stood up for my goals more effectively than others could have ever done for me.
As very useful for healing, fundamental questions that I kept persistently asking myself turned out to be: “How? And when? And where?” With their help, I’ve found the answers and insights from which HeilÜben descends.
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*Petermann, Franz, Niebank, Kay und Scheithauer, Herbert, Entwicklungswissenschaft, Springer 2003
**also Cohn, Ruth C. in Cohn, Ruth C., Farau, Alfred, Gelebte Geschichte der Psychotherapie, Klett Cotta 1984